Life Vs Death


30th October, 2013:





11:00 AM:
My normal day started.. I was about to start my work in office when my mother called me and was speaking about a bus accident involving Jabbar Travels on Bangalore – Hyderabad Highway.. near Mahabubnagar which is about 130 KMs away from here.(why was she telling this to me..!!??) and then came the real bad news… One of my cousins: Priyanka, she was on board and was killed in the accident… I just could not believe this..  I browsed through the internet to find out the details and to confirm whether this was true.. My sister called me and told me to look into eenadu online edition and that the second link confirms that she is dead.

12:00 PM:
I rushed to one of her uncles house where the body was expected to arrive at around 2.30 PM (Last night she was Priyanka.. the next day she was being referred to as body.. )… like in a  movie scene, everything was flashing by in my mind..

1:00 PM:
Reached the house in chikkadapally.. I was about to call my grandmother to know the apartment’s name but then saw a group of news reporters standing near an apartment.

“photo sampadinchali.. gandhinagar lo inkokallu unaru ata.. nenu akadadiki velli vosta” (I need to get a photo of her.. there is one more in gandhinagar.. I am going there)..  Probably this is needed for the cover story of the whole accident.

I then went in. Her mother and aunts were crying inconsolably.. Her mother was shouting “she will come now.. she will say hello to me.. I can see her in a blue dress standing at the door..”

On the other side, people started gathering as the time passed. They were having conversations within each other and were recounting their version of what they were doing when they heard about this.

One was doing his daily pooja rituals.. other was about to start to office.. 

A couple of them were discussing on how these private buses were being driven and some other accident in the recent past which killed 32 people.

One person was giving some instructions on phone about some wood work going on in his home.

A couple were discussing on where to place the body: the hall or the first room? 

“the sofas are here.. we cannot accommodate it.. we will place it in the cellar.. most of the people do that and send it away from there itself..”
“we can move one of the sofas to the hall.. the box would be placed here itself.. it would be of my length“
“it should be placed in this direction. The head should be in that direction.. Placing here would be fine to move around also”

The room was cleaned and the sofas were moved out to make place.

1:45 PM:
The freezer box arrived in a white colored Maruti Van. 

“Freezer Box on rent” and a phone number on it. (business depends on people getting died each day and who afford to that rented box..!!) 
It was more like a refrigerator but a sleeping one.. with a plastic lid over it.. probably it was in use very frequently.. it looked very old and had a phone number on it in red colored bold font.

The box was carried and then placed in the room by 2 people. It seemed like a routine affair for them.

“Tala etu vaipu?” (head which side?)
“…itu vaipu” (This side)
“1.5 litres water bottle untey tala kinda pettandi.. votti dindu tho sarigga undadu” (place a 1.5 liters water bottle under head to make it stand still.. otherwise only a pillow is not sufficient)

He was taken aside and was explained that the body was completely burnt and this was not needed.

“box on chestunna.. cool avtundi chuskondi” (switched on the freezer box.. check it out. Its getting cooled)
“earthing undi kada.. shock kottadu kada”
“[smile]…... kotha flats ki earthing untundi sir.. shock emi kottadu.. paata flats ki aithe ilantivi untayi” (new flats have their earthing done.. no need to worry of shock.. old flats have the chances like this) 
“[smile]…..”
“body raagane mutha tisi petadamey.. sannati cloth emaina untey kinda vesi apudu body ni pettandi.. tisetapudu easy ga untundi” (just remove the lid and place the body.. spread out a thin cloth and then place the body so that it would be easy to take it out)
“repu podduney vochesi tiskellipo box ni” (take the box out tomorrow morning)

The scenes of Vedam movie came in my mind. One of the lead roles says “mana basti lo aithe ganta lo ettestaru.. dabbunnollu ice pettey lo oka roju mottham pedtaru.. dinnamma jeevitham.. chavu ki kuda dabbu undali…” (in our colony the body is taken away in an hour.. rich people put the body in an ice box and have it for a whole day.. money should be there even in death)


2:15 PM:
Her husband arrived from Bangalore.. completely devastated.. She was married an year ago.

I went out and stood in the balcony.. an elderly person standing beside me was telling me that the body was identified by her mother with the help of chains around the neck. Father and 2 more relatives are on the way back to Hyderabad.. in about 45 mins they are expected to reach.

3.15 PM:
The ambulance arrived with 2 sedan cars infront of them.

Her father is an additional judge and was strong. Heard him saying that its still doubtful if the body was his daughter’s or not.. because it was only with the help of chains that she was identified.

Press reporters gathered around the ambulance door to take the pictures. Her father shouted to move them out of the way. 

Stretcher came out. It was like a huge rice bag.. completely packaged with cloth, polythene sheets and ropes.

Grandfather like person to the girl was crying aloud.. Hitting face with his palms.. “what else should I see now also at this age?” His daughter died 3 months ago due to some long standing illness.

3:30 PM:
She was placed in the box. People grew in numbers. A big photo frame of her in a black and white photo was placed above the box.. What a beautiful smile..!

Everyone had grim expression. It was difficult to digest the tragedy of this magnitude. 

The body was to be cremated tomorrow morning.. Some more relatives were expected to arrive from Delhi by 7:00 PM flight.

The girl’s cousin sister came out and looked at the stretcher. Burst out crying and sat down on the stairs looking at it. The stretcher had red marks on it.. may be the blood stains.

5.30 PM:
We left the place. We were about to sit in our car when a passerby was asking my mother what happened in there and why were so many people in the cellar.. 

6.30 PM:
Reached home. Took a bath. Had food. 

We were watching all the news channels one after the other. They were giving the reasons for the accident and story of each person died in it. Photos were flashed and relatives were interviewed. Everyone had a story of their own.

31st October, 2013:

What remained of her was cremated with full religious honors at 10:30 AM.

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I could not make it for your marriage.. I lost track of all my cousins since more than 3 and half years. But somehow I should have got in touch with you after your marriage. Wishing like this is of no use now.

No parent should face a situation like this.. Losing their loved children in accidents or due to illness. The grief and pain can never be taken away from them.

Life or death happen within the wink of the eye lids..  Yet we fight with parents, friends, egos, career, job change, salary hikes, appraisals, promotions..

This is the end of a bright and active girl. Just 25 years old. Sudden and tragic death in a road accident in a split of second due to driver’s inability to judge the gap and control the speed because of a sleepy mind while overtaking a car at 120 KMPH in a powerful Volvo bus. 

Never thought that you would be one of the blog’s articles in this fashion.

Good bye.

Freedom of loneliness

I always prefer to be alone most of the times. Don’t feel pity for me or feel that I maybe suffering from depression. I am happy being with myself and spending time with me for some reasons.


Reason# 1:
Since my childhood I always had 1 (or max 2) best buddy(ies) at any point of time.
-- The one from my 3rd class & +2 is in Canada.
-- No idea about my 8th class friend.
-- Couple of friends from 9th & 10th are in US.
-- The one from grad in US.
-- One from Mysore training is in US. Other one is married.

I am comfortable hanging out with these people. I can command them and I don’t mind even if I had to obey them. I cannot command other people and feel very very uncomfortable & awkward if I listen to them. Hence I do not ask others to come out with me.

Reason# 2:
Money. Many a times I was the scapegoat to burn my pockets. I still do not get the logic why people get down from auto and look left and then right and then adjust the hair without taking out the purse and pay the fare for the auto..! Complete a** holes.
               You see, I have complete understanding with the buddies I mentioned previously. I don’t mind paying up for them because they are my best friends and are completely of my type. Anyway we completely understand each other even if I am the one who is spending everything or he is the one who is pending everything we have complete freedom of asking for money if we feel like. We do not feel bad about it with each other. And you know what, we generally tend to ask each other how much we have spent and whats the share.
               Boss, if someone is spending for you, it is your duty to ask how much was spent and whats the share and pay it up at the end of the day.
Many a times, I was the one who will be booking tickets in multiplexes through online and end up at home after watching the movie without getting any money for their share of tickets.

Don’t feel that I am a miser/something. If you feel like that I can’t help.

Reason# 3:
I am very passionate and child like in some things. If I happen to see something new and is very rare to buy then I will go to any extent to find it and buy it even if I had to travel 40 or 50 KMs. Some may find it odd if ask them out to buy a car hanging which symbolizes Kerala tradition and can get it only at Chikpet, near Majestic, Bangalore which is 26 KMs away from Electronic city or to have a plate of idly which is available only at 7:00 AM somewhere interior of Nampally, Hyderabad on a Sunday morning. I get back a devastating look from them and think that I am mad.

Hence I go alone in order to escape from their peculiar looks.

Reason# 4:
I am very quick at getting ready and punctual to reach my destination. I hate being lazy or getting up late at 10:30 AM and go for a movie at 11:30 AM by hurrying things up. I am not the kind of person who broods for an hour chewing the toothbrush in my mouth and sit in front of TV for one hour.
               
I can move around on my own rules. If I feel like walking I can walk for 3 hours. I can go in auto and end up paying 200/- if I have to and need not ask anyone if its ok to pay this much

I can decide, travel or take a sudden detour and suddenly change plans on my terms.

“For them lonesomeness is the plight of sick one. For me it’s the flight from the sick ones.”- Friedrich Nietzsche

iHate

1. Some one calling me by a snap/by constantly tapping on shoulder or back.
2. Guys who keeps scratching loins frequently no matter where he is.
3. Speaking loudly and causing disturbance to others in cinema theater.
4. Show off at work place for something he has done (u would have heard many people saying....I already thought of this and also gave a solution but did not take it... anyway they will come back to my solution at the end...)
5. Teasing unnecessarily.
6. Arguing blindly just for the heck of it and not accepting the fact due to ego problems.
7. Lazy buggers wasting time in getting ready or having food.
8. Bluffing things like I did not study even a single chapter (the exam would be in one hour and the guy is decent enough in studies) or saying that he doesn't have enough knowledge of the tool or application functionality but is always craving for work and not ready to share the knowledge he has.
9. People constantly complaining about salary hikes or work or onsite etc etc... but still sticking to the same company or work... one thing guys... fight it out for the things you aspire or get out of that shit but don't stay and brag about in front of your friends and colleagues.
10. Someone using my cell frequently.

P.S. Some of these can be ignored if he is my close friend. 

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