Marriage is a very crucial part of life. You may think of many requirements for your future husband/wife. No matter what, the wannabe husband/wife would be of complete opposite to your expectations. This is true in most of the cases I have seen. Whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage, adjustments and compromises are inevitable after starting a new life together.
These are some of the to-do things which I could think of for a prosperous married life.
For Men:
1. Start spending more time with her. See that you spend some time despite being busy in office or out with friends for a night party. Always remember to message her atleast to let her know that you still think of her even when you are outside.
2. Decrease the time which you spend on friends.. be it on phones or a friends gettogether or a unplanned dinner. Give importance to her.. change your priorities and let her know that she is the utmost priority always.
3. Keep impressing her like giving flowers or cooking for her on a weekend or doing things for her which she usually does.
4. If possible, walk for 15 or 20 mins a day with her after dinner. This could be the time where you can have a romantic conversation.
5. Plan a trip with friends only if its unavoidable. Such outings really annoy her so much.
6. Sit idle in a park with her and enjoy the calm surroundings, have small talks in between.
7. Never discuss serious things (like finance, future plans, children, family topics etc) before going to bed. It could disturb the night peace and could possibly have a bad next morning also.
8. Never forget to take good care of important days like valentine’s day, anniversary day, or her birthday and even your birthday. These days can make or break you up if not handled properly. Plan for outing together, gift her something, and last but not the least.. Be the first person to wish her and treat her like a princess. (Even if you do not believe or celebrate them (anniversary day is no exception.. must and should day which should be celebrated or else get ready for the heat..!)
9. Try to enter into her world of expectations and try to reach at least 80 % of them.
10. No matter how busy you are, keep calling or texting her often.
11. Please remember that you would be always the first person to be in her mind no matter where she is or how she is.
For Women:
1. For GOD’s sake, remember one thing in mind: Marriage life is not a dream world what you think of. Be practical and don’t live in a virtual world.
2. Don’t expect too much from him. He could be a dumb ass. He could forget to text you when you are at home and waiting for him. Don’t curse him. He could be really stuck up in work and may not come to mind that he needs to inform you of it.
3. Men will be men.. boys will be boys.. They love hanging out with friends more than anything. Allow him for parties and you be a part of it if possible.
4. Allow him for trips with friends. This could be the biggest gift that you would be giving to him..!
5. Let him booze and drink… he is used to do this before marriage and it is very difficult to give up such good old habits.
6. Even though he may not be with you all day or may not call you up all the day but at the end of it, he sleeps peacefully only if he has a small conversation with you. He could be so bad at coming out with feelings but still please do keep in mind that you are the most valuable person to him.
7. The last thought of the day before he falls asleep is you. You would be all over his mind and personally I feel that this is the time where one truly thinks of himself and about you also. This is really true.
Common:
1. Arguments and quarrels are inevitable in a married life. If one is shouting, the other should try to keep his/her calm. Let the heat come down from the mind and then sit, discuss peacefully in a slow and gentle voice.
2. Its good to have difference of opinions and war of words. It helps you to understand your partner better and not to repeat the mistakes which could be the triggering aspect.
3. Do not ever continue arguments due to external factors like parents, relatives or friends and any other thing which is not related personally to both of you. Someone else should not be the problem topic between you.
4. Never take words that come out of anger seriously. They could have come out at the nick of time. They will feel sorry once situation calms down.
5. Try to have discussions directly in person instead of texting or phone calls.
6. Don't be really true to him/her. Dont lie but hide the hard truth at times which may hurt the other. This is necessary for unnecessary arguments.
6. Don't be really true to him/her. Dont lie but hide the hard truth at times which may hurt the other. This is necessary for unnecessary arguments.
These are all the things I could think of. Wish you all the best folks.. !
It is not only about a marriage, it's about a relationship. And i think these are all really stuck up in our head. We don't need to have something called "compromise",
ReplyDeleteBoth of the partners should have their own lives and circle (Uncommon) and have their own world also together. All this you have mentioned might be true but in a conventional world. In this modern day culture like this where each and every person should have individual ideas, goals and world of their own, Even the female partners need to take time and have some privacy instead of expecting. applies vice versa.
Just avoiding unnecessary thinking and can focus on real goals of life are far better. This really helps in a healthy relationship. Most importantly third party issues should not come in between the couple and lead to arguments unless they have problems with each other (Really like behavior and attitude).
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